I’ve come upon this term very recently and it denotes the tiny, seemingly inconsequential choices or moments that alter the direction of future events. I also surmised that it had something to do with the movie “Sliding Doors” which I was able to watch many years back. The film “Sliding Doors” is about a woman who missed the tube and the same woman who was able to catch the tube. It showed in parallel how her life would’ve been different if she caught the tube train after getting sacked from work that day.
I have come to love the term because if you have watched the movie, then you’ll understand what it really means. Now that I look back on my life, I wonder how many sliding-doors moments I’ve had that I wasn’t aware of. Sometimes I wish I have the opportunity to watch how my life would have gone if I have made different choices than the ones I’ve made.
Has it ever crossed your mind that maybe if you didn’t miss that bus, or if you got on that plane, or if you went to a different university, or if you decided to stay with that person, then your life would’ve been very different from what it is now? Come to think of it, I think our lives are made up of little sliding-doors moments, we’re just too preoccupied to take notice.
It’s those little decisions that we make that seem innocent at first but when you look back after a while, you realise that you met the people in your life because of it. Or you look back and you realise that your life would have been completely different if it weren’t for that one choice you’ve made.
I’ve had a sliding-doors moment fairly recently and now that I look back on it, I realised how big of an impact it made. I wish someone could show me how different everything would’ve been if I chose differently. I keep thinking what if I chose differently. I find myself weighing the pros and cons on random parts of the day, that internal debate that leaves me with more questions rather than answers. It gnaws on me because whether I admit it to myself or not, I want to come back, but after all that is said and done, I don’t know how to come back. I’d like to think that everything happened for the best but if that were true, then why am I still thinking about it?
But one thing I got from the movie is that no matter how many sliding-doors moments we had and no matter where we are headed because of the choices that we have made, the outcome will still be the same. If you are meant to meet this person, then they will serendipitously show up in your life, whether you like it or not. If you are meant to have a certain career, then you will end up having it no matter how far from it your choices bring you. The life that you are meant to have and the people you are meant to be with will always gravitate towards you no matter how much you screw up your sliding doors moments.